Comments on: How to deal with negative comments

By: theinfopreneur

theinfopreneur — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:36:48 +0000

Hey Jeff,

That’s a really good way of looking at it, ‘never publish anything you wouldn’t show your family’ I love that!

By: Jeff Rutowski

Jeff Rutowski — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:13:13 +0000

I try to look through the comment and around the personal slights/attacks. I’m not perfect and maybe there’s a crumb of value even in negative comments. I subscribe to the idea that I shouldn’t publish anything on the Internet–or anywhere else for that matter–that I wouldn’t be proud to show my family. When you publish on public forums like blogs, you are opening yourself up to the great unknown. You never know when something you say strikes a chord with someone. Unfortunately, some people are tone-deaf.

By: theinfopreneur

theinfopreneur — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 14:38:45 +0000

Winnie,

the way I see it is if you get a 100 positive comments, I expect a 100 negative ones. Not everyone agrees with the way I do things or my attitude on life, virtually everyday I get people on the internet and in person tell me I’m doing something wrong. It’s just there opinion, just like it’s my opinion to ignore them! lol

By: winnie

winnie — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 12:30:44 +0000

I dont deal well with negative especially when it is about my story or my writing. I had two individuals in particular whom are very negative about what I write and for the most part I tried shaking it off. But because my story is so personal, it really hurts me. I do wear my heart on my shoulders and it is more difficult for me. I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one getting negative feedback or comments. The hell with them all who do not believe in us. Right?
winnie´s last blog ..I am Tired of Crying (Help Me)

By: Lisa Reese

Lisa Reese — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 05:45:54 +0000

This sort of situation, but in person, is something I’m used to and comfortable with. Photography critiques in an academic setting can be brutal because there are times when a personal dislike of the person presenting rather than a valid issue with their work is the motivation behind the criticism (mean spiritedness). I’ve felt my creative writing workshops in and out of an academic environment were more helpful, even when my work wasn’t as strong as I would’ve liked.
Lisa Reese´s last blog ..Lee Jacobson by Lisa Reese

By: Keith

Keith — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:55:46 +0000

I have seen some pretty crazy and not only negative, but insulting comments this week on a few blogs I read. The most important thing is that you realize some people will disagree. I read all the comments on that post, and I assume the commentator didn’t want to voice those opinions in the comments (none of them were that bad).

Anyway, take it with a grain of salt and move on….
Keith´s last blog ..Why Comments Build Community On A Blog

By: Rose

Rose — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:50:51 +0000

As a writer I’m get use to negativity. Criticism is part of both the writing and blogging journey. The best way to look at criticism is to ask yourself are they criticizing to be helpful or hurtful.

By: theinfopreneur

theinfopreneur — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 21:13:32 +0000

Great example here Rich.

I see it now as a positive if I get negative feedback, means that I am reaching enough people.

keep positive, you are doing a great job
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By: Rich

Rich — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 21:04:39 +0000

I had been blogging on one of my other site for some time, aimed at helping others involved in a bipolar relationship. Finally, the negative comments came around, my first two hit on the same day.

They both stung, as one hinted that since I was bigger than my wife, I could slap her around when her disorder caused problems…the other, was how foolish I was being for trying to help and all people with mental disorders belong in prison, away from the rest of society and he left his own bipolar wife.

I swallowed my pride however, knowing that I was indeed helping others as the comments and emails I had received from those supporting me have been awesome…and as profesionally as I could remain, I emailed the negative commenters that I simply wasn’t going to authorize such comments on the site and that was it.

I received one email from the first guy, amazed that I contacted him…apparently his “hobby” was to “find random sites on StumbleUpon and leave stupid comments”…his own words.

The second guy never responded but at the end of the day, he ended up hitting the site several times hitting almost every post…all I can hope for is that I helped him see that it is possible to have a successful bipolar relationship.

Long story short, take the negative with a grain of salt, you will never please everybody regardless of how hard you try and you’ll always be wrong in someone else’s eyes.

-Rich
Rich´s last blog ..Happy Holidays from Rich Wallace

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 03:59:34 +0000

First, Congratulations you have arrived.
After the internal struggle to immediately defend myself has passed I look for truth in the post. See if there is anything that you can take from it that will make you better, if so take it and thank them.
If you must take a jab back add a little lesson on proper feedback, that might get you another negative post or it just might win you a new fan. You have shown you can take criticism even when not delivered in the best manner.
If there is no real nuggets of truth rather just whining, ignore it. In my experience whiners are usually just looking for a reaction so they can whine some more.
Keep it up and as was pointed out before, your percentages of possitive to negative are hugely in your favor!
Jeff
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